One of the fastest ways to get out of your highest version is to fall into the Triangle of Disempowerment. That is a term used by psychologists to describe how individuals (and countries) tend to play one of these three roles in response to life. There is the Victim (why me, who is to blame?),…
Here’s a good one for you. What happens when you are unexpectedly attacked, either verbally or emotionally? As adults, we aren’t prepared for someone to insult, shame, humiliate or scorn us. At least, I hope it isn’t something common in your personal or professional world. It seems we immediately go to our own auto response.…
I feel inspired and enthused knowing that there are other people who are wanting to choose a higher set of behavioral responses alongside me. Thank you for all the great responses from last post, all were excellent reminders and ideas. The one that keeps surfacing is this~ Never take things personally. Why DO we take…
Based on our family history, biology, viewpoints and DNA, we seem to come packaged with pre-set judgments about right and wrong, black and white. However, maturity involves stepping out of that pre-set thinking and into someone else’s shoes. When I practice this, my heart softens towards someone I may not have been able to understand…
Part of the current on-going conflict that plagues our nation is because BOTH sides feel quite righteous in their position, and sadly this dug-in righteousness has created the stalemate of us vs them. In the bigger picture, the ones that leaders ought to be able to see, is that there is a unity that is…
Listening (actively, attentively and radically~ thanks, Cara!) Unearthing the qualities that are required to live my best and highest self, bringing them to the forefront and sharing them, listening would not have been number two, but after Cara suggested it, I knew she was right. It needs to come sooner than later. Honest and active…
Open-Minded~ necessary on the journey to our own best version As part of my commitment to be a part of the solution (vs the problem) prompted by this year of potential crisis in our country, I pledge to practice open-mindedness as often as I can, making it my vigilant companion. More eloquent voices than mine…
Doesn’t matter which side you are on or whether you choose not to take sides at all, this year promises to be one of great conflict for this country. Boil down the energetics of it and it seems to come down to separation, competition, exclusiveness and fear which then breed its own forms of ugliness…
The article I shared last month about being in charge of your own emotions as opposed to reacting to someone else’s emotions was one of the most well-read LinkedIn articles so I thought if people were that interested I ought to share a follow up. In many of the responses I received, most people said…
As mature leaders, equipped with innate talents and schooled to improve our skills, at some point we come upon the question as to whether we can or cannot choose our responses. Does someone else’s behavior constitute a given response? Or isn’t Emotional Intelligence the ability to manage our own emotions and hold sway over others…