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Time to get out your Moral Compass and Polish it

Everyone knows history repeats itself. 724 pages of The Timetables of History reveal that. And as Dave Mason sang in the 70s, “There ain’t no good guy, there ain’t no bad guy, there’s only you and me and we just disagree.” But are we interpreting present history this way? We are participating in a fascinating…

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Leading to Empower (vs having it your way)

For all a leader’s good intentions, when the rubber hits the pavement, it often becomes a different story. Many leaders believe they empower their people, but when you ask their people it may not be the case. Part of the reason a person becomes a leader is because they have ideas and opinions about things…

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Three Qualities that make the Magic

Several weeks ago I had the honor of leading a group of mature and self-aware women in a week long retreat in the French Pyrenees. Most of these women didn’t know each other but had committed a sizable sum of money, effort and time to be there. My job as facilitator was something I took…

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Shine Report Vol 12

Thoughts vs Words: How different are they really? As a person of authority, your word usually carries more weight than others, correct? It also goes to say that your thoughts carry more weight too. There is no denying that we are in a very divisive time and that there are people you will be working…

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Shine Report Vol 11

Gracious Humility~ is it possible? Trying to stay in a place of integrity and strong leadership isn’t always easy, especially when we aren’t seeing it modeled for us on a larger scale. No matter, it is our job, yours, if you are reading this, to find ways (self-motivation and self-regulation) to stay in your personal…

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Modeling Thinking for yourself

Leaders, we are facing a huge challenge. The world we find ourselves in is one rapidly growing to include more and more ways that others think for us (reviews, podcasts, AI, auto-correct, talking heads, Siri, social media buzz, ad infinitum). The results? People are less and less thinking for themselves. In fact, in several research…

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Shine Report~ Defending invites Attack

After the last Shine Report, I received quite a few responses pointing to defensiveness as a pretty common and mighty reaction to any intended or unintended challenge to our person (or integrity). I watched it as well in unfolding drama with my clients and family (AND self) the past few weeks. It happens so quickly,…

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Shine Report~ Step OFF the Victim Triangle

One of the fastest ways to get out of your highest version is to fall into the Triangle of Disempowerment. That is a term used by psychologists to describe how individuals (and countries) tend to play one of these three roles in response to life. There is the Victim (why me, who is to blame?),…

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The Shine Report Vol 4 ~ Changing Shoes with Someone

Based on our family history, biology, viewpoints and DNA, we seem to come packaged with pre-set judgments about right and wrong, black and white. However, maturity involves stepping out of that pre-set thinking and into someone else’s shoes. When I practice this, my heart softens towards someone I may not have been able to understand…

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The Shine Report, Vol. 2 ~ Listening

Listening (actively, attentively and radically~ thanks, Cara!) Unearthing the qualities that are required to live my best and highest self, bringing them to the forefront and sharing them, listening would not have been number two, but after Cara suggested it, I knew she was right. It needs to come sooner than later. Honest and active…

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Going from Good to Great

What makes a person or a company go from good to great? Jim Collins and his research team spent 5 years trying to answer that question and ended up writing a book on their results back in 2001 called “Good to Great”. After finishing it, I came away with a lot of information and insights,…

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The Brain on Art but your Soul on Hold

A friend of mine gifted me with the book Your Brain on Art and reading it has prompted me to share, not only its findings, but to add my two cents as well. The book is scientific in that it quotes research on the brain and art to prove that aesthetics make you healthy, and…

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Leading in a Time of Change of Historical Proportions

We’re always in a state of change, but we find ourselves now witnessing some catastrophic changes in the history of man. First of all, technology has become a major part of our everyday lives and through it, we have witnessed the introduction of mass media bringing group consciousness into our homes. We are now connected…

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Reciprocation as a Mature Social Skill

Gabor Mate in his book The Myth of Normal makes a case for reciprocity as being a basic need of humans. It helps people feel seen, acknowledged, heard and alive. You know that urge you have when you are eye to eye with an infant to mimic the same funny faces they make? That begins…

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