One of the fastest ways to get out of your highest version is to fall into the Triangle of Disempowerment. That is a term used by psychologists to describe how individuals (and countries) tend to play one of these three roles in response to life.
There is the Victim (why me, who is to blame?), the Perpetrator (the one to blame) and the Rescuer (the one who can fix it, repair, save). You probably know which one is your favorite go to. Not that we haven’t felt them all, we usually have a favorite and that helps define us. The deal is, if you are playing any one of these roles, you are disempowering (self and others). It took me a long time to figure out that playing the Rescuer did not serve the one I saw as a Victim. I put them in the weaker role and my seeing them that way helped keep them in that role.
Also, while on the triangle, you may think you are being the Rescuer when if you aren’t enough, the Victim will put you in the Perpetrator role. So the triangle moves and shifts as long as you are on it.
Your only option in being the Highest Version of yourself is to step OFF the triangle. Don’t play that game, others will want to blame you, want you to save them or see you as incapable. Don’t buy into it. Your other choice is seeing everyone as the writer, director and main actor of their OWN story!! You too. Trust that the story people are in is one they have the option of learning something incredibly valuable and you taking their challenges away weakens them, and those we thought were perpetrators are helping create those much needed challenges. See THROUGH the group consciously held beliefs that we must play one of those roles. You don’t. Free yourself and SHINE!
